Radha is a mother of two kids aged 4 and 2. She is a teacher in a primary school and is also pursuing an MBA. She is very loving and giving and so being rejected doesn’t sit too well with her. And that is exactly what her hubby does all the time. He works in a call centre and has crazy shifts. When he returns, he’s grumpy and complains about how she has kept the house; that it smells. He doesn’t talk to her for weeks and their sex life is also dismal. They have sex like once a week and have been married for only 5 years.
There are many women like Radha who do their best for their families, but due to some reason or the other they are never appreciated for their efforts. She is young, loves her husband and is desperate to do something that would please him as she has no idea why he gets upset with her ever so often. So much so that she would even doubt herself that perhaps she is not wearing the right thing, or not smelling nice.
Radha is in a tough situation. Such behavior is unacceptable for a couple that has been together for just 4 years. At this point, most men run around the house looking to get their wife into the bedroom any chance that they can get.
There is little you can change about his personality with regards to his compulsive behaviour related to cleanliness, but you sure can work on other things. Here are some thoughts:
Problem: Presence of financial issues which may be worrying him no end.
Solution: Sit down with him and review your finances together to see how he can work less so that he will have quality family and couple time. There is nothing worse for sex than being tired. He can use some anger management classes. A man not talking to his wife because the house doesn't smell right has issues.
Problem: You look messy and unattractive and a far cry from the ‘rose garden’.
Solution: To whatever extent possible, take care of yourself. It hard with two little kids, but even if it is fixing your hair or applying lipstick, it can make a difference in how you feel and how you look. It is sad that so many women do not realize this and that is why man are always looking at all those naughty pictures on the Internet because their wives walk around the house looking so dull and boring.
Problem: You are not exciting enough.
Solution: Buy thongs and G-strings for yourself to sex up your lingerie collection. Just wearing something sexy underneath your clothes will make you feel sexy and it will show. When you are in shorts at home and your pink panty straps shows as you bend in front of him, he will notice. The effect is the same when the top of the bra cup peeks through the camisole. Couples tell me that just switching from shorts to panties while sleeping does the trick too. You get the idea. Learn new ways of pleasing him. Show him such a wild time that he can never ever say no to you.
Note: Men are very visual and more than touching or kissing they get turned on first by what they see (or what they don't see right away).
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